What if you could restore your natural resilience so you could respond to situations with equanimity rather that react with intensity to stressful situations? The good news is your system is designed to move into harmony and resiliency. This means you can learn to maintain a calm attitude, be at ease, and respond appropriately despite life’s daily challenges.
People pleasing and reluctance to notice what I want and risk asking for it is a learned strategy for avoiding disappointment. When viewed this way I have to bow down to the little kid in me who must have figured this strategy out long ago. It worked brilliantly to avoid major disappointment. But now that I’m older – and have the ability to look at this more deeply – I’m thinking disappointment isn’t so scary anymore. I’m thinking the risk of disappointment is definitely worth the gain of living more fully by noticing and feeling free to express my preferences.
A mindful “Good bye” at the end of life is powerful stuff. It is putting voice to an end without pretense. There is reality and acceptance in knowing that – ‘This life will end soon and we will not see each other again…at least in this form.’ It is a period. It is the last period, in the last paragraph of, the last sentence of, the last chapter of a book.It is the last thing we get before the words, The End. How did I want to hold this period? What did I need for a sense of completion? What was the right way to say “Good-bye” for me? What did I really want to say? How was I going to say it?
I want to feel good all the time. And when I don’t feel happy – in addition to the unhappy feeling – I’m unhappy about being unhappy! I want to as quickly as possible figure out the problem, change things up, find a solution and get back to happy. This is my habitual way of processing life events. But as I bring a more mindful approach to everyday life it becomes apparent that it’s the resistance to unhappy feelings that’s the real problem. Why so much fear around feeling anything other than happy contentment?
Water is life and life requires the presence of water. In abundance. Without it all life perishes and becomes dust. Without it all life ceases to exist. For we live on in the curling sweep of a single blue ecosystem, where every creature is intimately and intrinsically connected to every other creature. Water provides connection and it provides balance. Water is the way in which life transmits itself and joins one form to another. To understand water is to understand the physical reality of life.
I’m on a kick of exploring the truth. What I’m looking at is my personal truth. I’m trying to be completely open to and honest about what I’m feeling. Does the thought of brutal honesty make you nervous? No worries. I’m not communicating to others exactly what I’m feeling! I’m simply trying to be honest with myself. Not “brutally honest”, but “lovingly honest.”
While the shadow is not who we really are, neither are many of the other things we think define us. What we lose on the journey is the identification with thoughts of who we are. In this way, we awaken to the divinity that connects us with all beings.