Relationships as a Path of Awakening By Guest Blogger: Mackenzie Eason Relationships are a central part of being human. They are the thread that connects us to each other. We can think [...]
I really wanted to move on. But the problem seemed to have a mind of its own and it kept eating at me. Eventually I talked to my wise friend Paula about my dilemma. She said, “Here’s the problem. You can’t solve this with your head. This is a place your mind can’t go.”
Who ever heard of a shy flower? An introvert of sorts? I was delighted at the discovery - and it made me think of the people I know and their lovely hidden gems - available for admiration by those who give them a chance and who patiently wait and slow down enough to look and discover them.
What if you could restore your natural resilience so you could respond to situations with equanimity rather that react with intensity to stressful situations? The good news is your system is designed to move into harmony and resiliency. This means you can learn to maintain a calm attitude, be at ease, and respond appropriately despite life’s daily challenges.
People pleasing and reluctance to notice what I want and risk asking for it is a learned strategy for avoiding disappointment. When viewed this way I have to bow down to the little kid in me who must have figured this strategy out long ago. It worked brilliantly to avoid major disappointment. But now that I’m older – and have the ability to look at this more deeply – I’m thinking disappointment isn’t so scary anymore. I’m thinking the risk of disappointment is definitely worth the gain of living more fully by noticing and feeling free to express my preferences.
A mindful “Good bye” at the end of life is powerful stuff. It is putting voice to an end without pretense. There is reality and acceptance in knowing that – ‘This life will end soon and we will not see each other again…at least in this form.’ It is a period. It is the last period, in the last paragraph of, the last sentence of, the last chapter of a book.It is the last thing we get before the words, The End. How did I want to hold this period? What did I need for a sense of completion? What was the right way to say “Good-bye” for me? What did I really want to say? How was I going to say it?